Dating tips for 20 somethings
It’s tough, but keeping up friendships is work – and it’s sometimes worth it, but still. Every other friend I knew was going with a date except for me. It’s certainly not the end of the world, and I don’t think I would ever pull that stunt again, but it’s definitely lonely. I learned so much, I had the most fun ever, and I really bonded with my friends. If you’re starting to really fall for someone, but you know nothing will ever happen, you should get out before the heartbreak is too much to handle. Before your 20s, you love talking about bae on social media. You don’t need advice from your friends for everything.I couldn’t bear the thought of being the only single sitting at a table full of couples, and so… You get invited to a lot of things like that in your 20s – weddings, engagement parties, family stuff, etc. Pictures, sickingenly sweet statuses, #relationshipgoals all over the place. When I was in college, I relied on my friends for advice every moment of the day.
I guess “ladies” aren’t supposed to talk about their age, but I’ll just admit it: I’m in my 20s and I don’t care if you know (seriously, who cares? Anyway, considering I’m in my 20s, I am experienced in the art form that is dating in your 20s.
– and if you’re single, you dread having to find someone to bring along with you. I know a lot of people who say that saying you’re scared of commitment is just an excuse for “I don’t like you enough to commit to you.” In many cases, this is true. But as you get older, you realize it’s totally overrated. Second, making things Facebook official automatically makes this more complicated. I didn’t send a text to a crush without asking them about it first. I know I sound like your boring grandma, but I promise you’ll get through this… Which one of these things do you disagree with about dating in your 20s?
You might want to react like Nick Carraway and get drunk (and you legally can), but that’s probably a terrible idea. But there genuinely are people out there who are scared of commitment, and getting through to them can be very hard. It wasn’t until my 20s that I realized this was a problem. I’m not saying you shouldn’t know what you want, and of course you need some standards. Go on a date with the dude who has the job you hate.
I bonded with them so much and created so many memories I wouldn’t have if I had been in a relationship for that time. He was younger than me, he lived in the town I didn’t like, and he had the same name as my dad (mortifying). If I didn’t step out of my comfort zone, who knows where we would be? At some point, you will become obsessed with the idea of the future and you won’t understand why. When you’re in your 20s, you’ll probably go to a decent amount of bars and clubs. Being single in your 20s may be rewarding, but it’s not always easy.
I tried to blow him off, but my best friend encouraged me to go on one date with him. When I was a few years younger, I told everyone that I would never be that girl who thought about wanting to get married all the time. Movies and TV shows make it seem like a bar is a great place to meet someone cute and perfect for you. A bar is a great place to meet a creepy dude who wants to have sex with you. When you’re in your early 20s, you think you’ve done all of the growing you’re going to do. By a few years in, you’ll be a different person who wants different things – even in the dating world. Settling becomes easy, but that doesn’t mean you should do it. You’ll watch friends – and yourself – go through some pretty shitty things.