Dating disasters and how to avoid them
You spend an hour every night chatting online and get several text messages during the day. The couple’s first phone conversation didn’t go well. Let’s look at some ways to prevent your first date from ending up a dating disaster. If you don’t have any phone chemistry at all, or find yourself in an argument with your date before you even meet them, don’t schedule a date. If you put a date on the calendar, don’t feel badly about canceling. Here’s an example of a first date just ended up badly.“Even if she agrees to the terms, she may hope that you’ll eventually want a relationship with her.” Also, avoid family friends and co-workers.You don’t want to make family functions awkward or tarnish your reputation at work.But if you’re older, somewhat wiser, and still not ready for commitment, what’s a guy to do?“Post-college, you may still have female friends who really want to get laid but have a hard time finding a guy they can trust with whom to have that relationship,” says relationship expert Natasha Burton, author of You may already have an idea of which of your gal pals could be game to be friends with benefits.Visit her at Cyber Dating for dating advice and where singles and couples share their online dating stories.
“Be careful not to create a FWB relationship with a girl who has a crush on you,” Burton says.
Would know the name of the parent company you are interviewing with?
Would you know the name of the CEO or city of their headquarters? Add it all up, and it was a recipe for disaster before they even arrived at the sushi bar. Before you go on your next “first” date, make sure you are looking forward to it, do your homework, ask questions about the other person, take time to listen, and perhaps you’ll make a new friend, even if you don’t end up meeting “the one.” Julie Spira is the author of the bestselling online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
“Communication is key, even when you feel awkward,” stresses Burton.
“Set rules that work for exclusivity and anything else, but a) agree to them, and b) stick to them.” The same San Jose State study found that 15% of FWB setups turn sour when feelings develop.